The Good, The Bad, The Best Yet to Come in 2021
Have you seen the movie The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly? It’s a western classic starring Clint Eastwood from 1967. I actually went through a phase in high school and into college where I was really into westerns. Strange I know, and sometimes I wonder why my parents let me watch some of them. But, The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly is still one of my favorite movies to this day. It is Clint Eastwood in the prime of his early career, the final scene is cinematic magic, and the music is one of the best scores ever written. Don’t believe me, read all about why it’s one of the best westerns ever made here. As I was reflecting on 2020 the phrase “the good, bad, and the ugly” was what kept coming to my mind as a way to sum up the year. It’s a year that will indeed live in infamy and has changed all our lives in significant ways. There was plenty of bad, but I don’t want to forget to look at the good and yes there was some good to come out of 2020. You may just have to look hard to find it. I think I want to forget the ugly, and there were several bouts of ugly crying in this house due to the beginning of full blown toddler tantrums. Instead of the ugly, I want to focus on the best yet to come in 2021.
Here’s one of the best scenes, it also reminds me of a stand-off with my toddler!
The Good of 2020
Let’s start with the good. For me there was a surprising amount of good; especially as I feel more overwhelmed and tired than I ever thought possible. 2020 was the year I got to slow down the pace of life and focus on the simple joy of just being with my family. Being at home with nowhere to go, no appointments, or obligatory gatherings, made our schedule simple. Monotonous, but simple! I think as the pace of life returns I may miss the simplicity. 2020 was the year I was able to stay home with my daughter. I cut down to part time work and was able to work some from home. It allowed me to take care of her rather than needing to send her to preschool or daycare. If I had been working full time as I was up until 2019, I have no idea what we would have done for childcare. The burden would have largely fallen on my parents. I’ll forever be grateful that I could spend this concentrated time with her through the incredible transformation from just putting words together to becoming this chatty little girl. And even though she has grown more aware of the world around her, she is too young to fully comprehend what has happened this year. Lastly, 2020 was the year my husband was able to work from home. We enjoyed lunch together everyday. He got to play with our daughter more in the morning and evening instead of spending that time in traffic.
The Bad of 2020
We could probably all write our own book on the bad of 2020. From the global and national impact, to the illness and death brought on by Covid-19, our world will not look the same again. My heartfelt sympathy for those who have suffered more than most and lost loved ones. Not wanting to start a debate on lockdowns, but spending almost 24/7 at home is not the dream scenario I had pictured as a self-proclaimed homebody. The economic consequences have taken their toll on our communities as well. I will truly miss Souplantation, anyone else? 2020 was the year of shortages. We are grateful for neighbors who had just gone to Costco and had some toilet paper to spare when ours ran out. I went to a dozen different stores before finding eggs! It felt like Christmas morning when I walked into Grocery Outlet just as they opened a new shipment and handed me an 18 count. Then there are the masks, while necessary, are uncomfortable at the least and slightly stifling at the worst. Yes, 2020 had plenty of bad.
The Best is Yet To Come In 2021
Are you singing the song in your head? “The best is yet to come, and babe won’t it be fine.” I can’t help but hear old Blue Eyes crooning away. I love Frank Sinatra, because I’m like 80 at heart! But, I hold onto hope that the best is yet to come in 2021. As the vaccine gets shipped around the country and our amazing medical staff learn better and better ways to fight Covid-19 we will move forward. We are a resilient society, but more than that mothers are an especially resilient group. I may not have met you, but if you are reading this as a mom, you are one of the strongest people on this planet. Start thinking about what your hopes are for 2021. What are you looking forward to? What promises do you want to make to yourself? What if instead of New Year’s Resolutions, you made a list of hopes and promises. That would change my perspective and maybe yours too. What if instead of resolving to lose 10 pounds or eat healthier, while good things, we promised to have more grace with ourselves. Or we promised to be more confident in who we have become as a mother. If we focus on the promise and hope of the future without losing sight of what is good in the present our entire outlook on life can shift. Instead of being a defeated victim I can become a confident leader. I want 2021 to be the year I let go of past hurts. I want 2021 to be the year I take a step closer to who I was created to be. And maybe 2021 will be the year I start exercising regularly again.
I challenge you to make your own list. If 2020 was mostly bad or ugly for you, know that you are not alone. But it may help to write a list with three sections, “The Good”, “The Bad”, and “The Best”. I know when I am at my lowest; one of the best tools for me to pick myself back up is to focus on the good and hope for the future. As moms, I believe one of our greatest gifts to our children is to see the future with hope even in the darkest of times. 2020 is the breaking point that has shown us what we are capable of and the courage that was always inside. We have had to be everything to everyone and have survived. Take heart the best is yet to come!
THIS MOMMY IS TRYING IT AND YOU CAN TOO!